What can singles do to make a move to a new location easier? Part 2
“Today I close the door to the past, Open the door to future, take a deep breath, step on through and start a new chapter in my life.” Anonymous
You’re finally at your new abode. Did you remember to have the utilities put in your name or are you sitting there in the dark? I realized after posting the last blog that I forgot to mention that, but after all we’re self-sufficient singles and know about these things. You’re surrounded by boxes and you remembered to make sure everything on the inventory is now in your home. It’s time to find the ‘must have immediately‘ box, make a cup of coffee and sit down and think about how to transform this house or apartment into your home. You could also do what I did after the movers left, plug in the T.V., take a pain killer and vegetate for the rest of the day.
Eventually though, you’re going to have to face the fact that you’re the only one there to clean cupboards, unpack, rearrange furniture and hang pictures on the walls. You need a system and if you’re like me, you’re easily distracted and start with one thing and then go to another. I’ve read that as we age, we don’t lose our memory so much as we lose the ability to focus for long periods of time. I really can appreciate how all my Attention Deficit Disorder students felt, especially the ones who had some Hyperactivity symptoms mixed in. You’ll have to figure out your own personal system, but I found that if the movers put the big items where I needed them in each room along with the labeled boxes, I could pick a room and unload boxes and then move on. Starting in the kitchen seemed the best plan, since I had to eat, so that was my first step. As I told you in the last blog, declutter and then get rid of even more. I should have followed my own advice the last time, because my kitchen cabinets were way too small for my dishes. I also went from a walk-in closet to one that was a mere yard wide. Luckily, there are space saving devices that helped me out, but it took me at least a year to figure it out and I’m still not satisfied. Ikea at http://www.ikea.com/ms/en_US/rooms_ideas/small_spaces/index.html offers solutions for storage in small places. Apartment Therapy, both the website and Facebook Page have great ideas. I signed up to have their information sent to my email. http://www.apartmenttherapy.com.
As I got each room sorted out, I started to feel better about it all. Most of my life, I’d moved with someone and you had another person to help unpack and discuss how to arrange things. The last few moves, I was on my own. When I moved to Japan, I came into an almost empty, miniscule apartment and had to make it my own with the help of purchases from the 100 Yen Store, which has a bigger and better quality inventory than our Dollar Stores. I lived very well, saved a lot and traveled when I lived tiny in Japan.
When you’re alone, you can do whatever you want. Most people would be shocked at my beach meets thrift store décor. I once read a quote that went something like this, fill your home with things you love and make you happy. I’ve done that and feel comfortable with it, but have limited seating and had a complaint about my small T.V. and lack of a couch. Over the last few years I haven’t made the money I earned when I was working at my profession, but I’ve learned that you can live without a rented DVR, a dining room table and lots of storage. At my age I really don’t care what people think about my décor. I just want to be comfortable and hopefully have a place for the occasional guest to sit or sleep. Now you may be different, but as a single person you can do what makes you feel comfortable and not worry about what the rest of the world thinks. Besides if traveling and being active is your thing, then home is just a pit stop on your adventure.
If you’re a homebody, then go ahead, invest your money in a larger home and that living room suite you always wanted. Forget the latest trends. Make your home a reflection of your style. Even if you’re single, you may not be living alone all the time. Your children return home alone or with a family. You become a caretaker of an elderly relative. Maybe having a renter is a good way to pay off your mortgage. It you have a large home, especially the ones that feature an open concept living, dining and kitchen area, you need more and larger furniture. I’ve never had an interior decorator, but I’m sure I’d benefit from their expertise. HGTV, DIY and many websites also offer a myriad of free suggestions. Furniture stores always seem to have special sales on complete room packages. I like to sit on a couch or lie on a bed before I buy it, so I sometimes prefer to visit stores in my area and have it delivered. However, I’ve taken advantage of the many sales online and have always been satisfied with the results. If you like to shop online, Wayfair http://www.wayfair.com/ has free delivery to your home on items over $49 and is used by many T.V. designers. Again, remember to look at the reviews for the item and website. Check to make sure they have a free return policy and someone is there when they deliver. A lot of shipping companies and even the U.S. Postal Service just leave packages at your door and theft can be a problem. UPS, USPS and FedEx have online tracking sites that allow you to find out where your package is every step of the way. If you don’t care if your furniture is last year’s style, then according to https://gosimplefinance.com/best-time-year-buy-furniture/ “New furniture is released bi-annually, in February and August. That means every year in January and July, retailers are trying to unload items which haven’t sold yet in order to make room for new items.”
During all of this, don’t forget to make your pet as comfortable as possible. They’re adaptable, but having all of their usual things readily available when they get to their new home makes the adjustment easier.
Next time we’ll discuss acclimating to your new area. It’s always an adventure that can be daunting at any age, but being single can make it even more difficult. Let me know what you’ve done after your move to make your life easier. As always, thank you for your support and please ask your friends to join us here and on my Facebook Page, Single Boomer Life.
“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.” Walt Disney