“What’s Love Got to Do with It?”
You must understand
Though the touch of your hand
Makes my pulse react
That it’s only the thrill
Of boy meeting girl
You must try to ignore
That it means more than that
Oh what’s love got to do, got to do with it
What’s love but a second hand emotion
What’s love got to do, got to do with it
Who needs a heart
When a heart can be broken
From the song recorded by Tina Turner and written by Terry Britten and Graham Lyle
Are you an infatuation junkie? Could you be addicted to the exciting misery of falling in love, but not ready for the commitment of a long-term relationship? Believe me, you’re not alone. You fall in lust and then the thrill is gone. This doesn’t just happen to the young. Baby Boomers are susceptible and this could be the reason you’re a single. Of course, this is not the only reason why we choose to go solo, but it’s an area to explore.
Deborah Blum, in “The Plunge of Pleasure: Like all roller-coaster rides, dopamine highs have their dangers” on https://www.psychologytoday.com/ reported, “If serotonin is the Zen-master among neurotransmitter, dopamine is Pollyanna, responsible for the highs of infatuation, new love, joy, self-confidence, and motivation. But like all roller-coaster rides, dopamine highs have their dangers.” Rutgers University anthropologist Helen Fisher, Ph.D., said, “My prediction is that dopamine is an essential part of infatuation,” She scanned the brains of infatuated lovers searching for the dopamine drive that is associated with the rush of motivation, euphoria, sleeplessness, and loss of appetite. Research into the body’s reaction to dopamine is a fascinating topic of study that has been the subject of much investigation.
Pharmaceutical companies, hoping to cash in on its effects, manufacture their own synthetic brands which are sold as the prescription drugs Wellbutrin, its generic form, bupropion and Zyban. The first two are used to treat major depression, S.A.D., seasonal affective disorder, and in tandem with other drugs, other psychological conditions. Zyban is prescribed for help with smoking cessation. Knowing this may put your need for the thrill of infatuation into perspective. These prescription drugs do have side effects, so can we equate this with the naturally created dopamine that the body produces when we’re infatuated. If so, does infatuation have side effects?
Did you experience side effects the last time you thought you were hopelessly in love? Most people like these feelings and enjoy the exhilarating sensation associated with falling in love. After all, who wouldn’t appreciate these? Almost everyone wants to lose weight, feel euphoric, and be more motivated. Sleeplessness is less useful, but if you want to stay up half the night talking to your new sweetie then you might be grateful for that too. I find that I can get the same feelings when I’m getting ready to go on a long anticipated vacation even if I’m going alone. If that’s the case, can we get this giddy sensation without fear of a devastating breakup?
“Dopamine, how do I love thee? Let me count the ways,” jokes George Koob, Ph.D., a professor of neuropharmacology at the Scripps Research Institute in La Jolla, California. “Today’s gig is that dopamine is a kind of everyman’s neurotransmitter because it does everything. And the fact is, it doesn’t.” Lasting love is more than having a special someone with whom to celebrate Valentine’s Day. It has to be based on honesty, trust, mutual attraction, and all of the components that we expect in a lifetime relationship. This type of commitment is difficult and not everyone wants it or is suited for this lifestyle. You get some wonderful benefits from giving up your single status, but you also lose opportunities to make your own choices on things that matter to you most. In the end only you can make that decision.
If you decide to search for the one and only person with whom you can happily spend the rest of your life, then I wish you the best for this Valentine’s Day. If not, then you can watch “The Good Wife” with me. That woman really can’t decide if she wants to be single or married, but the conflict is exciting if you’re just part of the audience and not a participant in the drama.
Spoiler Alert! We should find out what she decides this year. The series is ending and there are only 9 episodes left.
If you’re a football fan, I hope you had an exhilarating experience watching the Super Bowl. If your team won, your dopamine receptors were probably working overtime. Just watch out for the drop in levels if you have a partner and their team lost. Studies have found that there’s a rise in domestic violence if you’re with a disappointed fan.
Continue your adventure!