Do your coupled friends think you need a partner to be happy? Do you feel they consider your time less valuable than that of their married friends? These are just two of the questions single Baby Boomers want to be answered. They know that married people mean well and just want them to be happy, but singles want everyone to know that they’re doing fine on their own. Here are some answers to questions that people who are in a relationship may have about their single friends.
Couples may think that single Baby Boomers who want to date will accept anyone as a potential mate. They may not have the face and body they had in their youth. Being single doesn’t make you desperate. Single Baby Boomers still have the same standards when it comes to a partner or even a dinner date.
Married family members expect singles to use their vacation time to travel to them for the holidays or other visits even if the singles have better accommodations for visitors than the rest of the family. Singles enjoy the opportunity to entertain in their home and to show them they can be a good host.
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Married friends may feel that you don’t want to be invited to couple’s gatherings or believe they have to get you a “date” to round out the number so you’ll feel comfortable. Most of the time singles don’t care if they’re alone because their friends have made them feel included just by asking them to join the group. If they’ve been single for a long time, they have a lot of experience fitting in with all groups and are happy to be asked to the party.
Marrieds often want their single friends to only meet them for breakfast, lunch or on weekdays. To them, evenings and weekends are for family or going out with other couples. While singles understand this, it may be more difficult for them to meet during the day if they’re still working, have children at home or a busy schedule for other reasons. They think it would be nice if couples could give up an evening once and awhile to meet with their single friends like they do with other couples.
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Singles don’t want you to drop them when you find a partner. They can handle it and aren’t a threat to your relationship. They want to keep you as a friend. Things change for a lot of reasons and if you need to spend time with a significant other, they understand and may have been in the same situation.
Some marrieds feel that singles are self-absorbed and not willing to give of themselves. They take care of a partner and a family while it seems their single friends can go home to a quiet, clean home where no one expects them to prepare dinner, listen to their problems and care for children or grandchildren. Singles often do have someone to care for. It can be a child who’s still at home or a parent who needs a caretaker most of the time. Some may not have those responsibilities, but chances are they did at some time in their life or may in the future. Very few Baby Boomers go through life without giving time and support to others in their family or community. Singles don’t go home, sit on the couch and do whatever they want all night. They have to clean, cook and do other household chores without any help. It’s not any easier to cook for one than two and you can’t eat popcorn or takeout every night.
Often people in relationships worry that their single friends won’t have anyone to care for them as they age. Couples may be in denial about their situation. No one knows how long their partner will be there for them. If they’re alone, they’ll want to know they have friends to help out just like singles do. Having children doesn’t mean they’ll take care of you. This often falls to other family members or friends. Singles know that they have to take care of their health and finances, so they don’t have to depend on others.
There are many issues that may cause misunderstandings between couples and single people. It’s important to not let them stand in the way of keeping and making friendships or cause a rift in the family. None of us wants to be alone in this world, but some of us are happy to walk life’s path as a single person and give and accept support when it’s needed. We want our decision viewed as a respected life choice by any group who has chosen a different one.
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