Single Baby Boomers and "The Singles Manifesto"

Single Baby Boomers and "The Singles Manifesto"

I came across this Singles Manifesto and want to share it with my readers.  It was written in 1974 and still remains relevant today for single men and women of all ages.  Single Baby Boomers grew up knowing that being single was a choice that wasn’t always the most popular one.  They had to defend it to their parents, friends, and society as a whole.  Some were strong enough to embrace it and others succumbed to the pressures of society to marry.  Later in life, many realized they would never be happy in a marriage or decided once they tried married life, they were happier and healthier alone.  Take a look at the Manifesto and see if you agree with its author.


The Singles Manifesto

By Marie Edwards


Whereas the written and spoken word about singles has been and continues to be one of gloom and doom, untruths, and misinformation, we the singles of the United States–divorced, separated, widowed and never-married in order to bury the myths establishes the truths, uplift our spirits, promote out freedom, become cognizant of our great fortune as singles, so ordain and establish this manifesto for singles of the United States of America.


ARTICLE I Attitude toward self:


  1. As a single, I shall appreciate myself as a unique person with a special combination of traits and talents no one else has.
  2. I will develop and maintain a healthy self-respect and a high sense of self-worth knowing that I cannot respect and like others until I first appreciate myself.
  3. I will at all times take responsibility for my own actions, knowing that responsibility begins within my own self.
  4. I will strive to put all my talents to work so that I can eliminate any residual, socially induced feelings of inferiority knowing that when I give of myself to others, my self‐esteem will rise accordingly.
  5. I will have goals, knowing I will feel a sense of elation and heightened self-esteem once the goal is accomplished.
  6. I will give myself rewards when I have accomplished a goal or difficult task, knowing the more I practice the spirit of giving of myself the more I will be able to give to others – and rewards, like charity, begin at home.
  7. I will take an entirely new look at loneliness, knowing there is a vast difference between loneliness and being alone, realizing further that loneliness is a part of the human condition and that facing it when it happens will allow me to appreciate the positive side of being alone.
  8. I will in my deepest feelings, know that it’s okay to be single and becoming braver know that it’s even more than okay – it can be a great and untapped opportunity for continuous personal growth.


ARTICLE II Attitude toward others:


  1. I will stop searching for the “one-and-only,” knowing that as I become more free to be myself I will be freer to care about others so that relationships will come to me as a natural consequence and I will feel free to accept or reject them.
  2. Instead of searching for the “one-and-only,” I will realize the tremendous importance of friendships and will develop understanding, worthwhile friends of both the same and opposite sex. I will realize that platonic friendships are not only possible but a necessary part of a successfully single life.
  3. I will take inventory of my present “friends,” bypassing those who are negative and harmful and cultivating those who are helpful and nourishing,
  4. I will when I attend singles’ affairs consider the singles I meet there as potential friends, not as “losers,” knowing my attitude will color my perception even before I step in the door.


ARTICLE III Attitude toward society:


  1. I will appreciate that all four categories of singlehood – divorced, separated, widowed and never-married – suffer similar discriminations and that we are much more alike than different, no matter what our age or sex.
  2. I will appreciate that the so-called battle of the sexes is a social myth, that men and women are much more alike than different in their reaction to fear, rejection, loneliness, sorrow, joy, sharing and loving and that as singles, we have a unique opportunity to foster understanding and empathy between male and female.
  3. I will no longer suffer in silence the injustices to me as single but will do everything I can to help eradicate them.
  4. I will by choosing to live a free single life, be helping to raise the status of singlehood. In doing this I will be strengthening rather than weakening marriage, for when we truly have the option not to marry, marriage will be seen as a free choice rather than the one demanded by a pairing society.
  5. Finally, I will do my part in every way to promote good between marrieds and singles, because misunderstandings will be diminished only when each of us, as a unique human being, realizes that being self-aware, autonomous, free, self-fulfilled, and whole has nothing whatsoever to do with being either married or single, but in the final analysis comes from being ourselves.

(Source: Edwards, Marie and Hoover, Eleanor.  (1974) The Challenge of Being Single: for Divorced, Widowed, Separated and Never Married Women. New York: Signet. 215–‐217)




You can take from this what you think has the most truth and importance for you in your life.  As single Baby Boomers who either through choice, divorce or the death of a spouse live their lives as a single,  we should consider how we can help the rest of the world know that we shouldn’t be “stereotyped, stigmatized, and ignored” as Dr. Bella DePaulo’s book, Singled Out says in its title.  We can “still live happily ever after”.


Continue the adventure! 

Linda Lea

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