Not all single Baby Boomers have families who can celebrate the important events in life with them. Many don’t even acknowledge their birthdays, saying it’s just another day. They may say they don’t care if anyone calls, sends a card or recognizes their special day in an email, tweet or on Facebook. As someone who always had family who remembers them, I know how much it means. Women seem to be the best at keeping track of friend’s special days, but I have a feeling men appreciate the gesture in spite of what they may say. As we age, our friends often become our family and are the ones who understand us best. Here are some ideas for ways we can help our friends celebrate.
Mother’s Day/Father’s Day – I mention this first since I’m writing this the week before Mother’s Day. It’s not just a Hallmark Holiday. It was first celebrated in the U.S. in 1908 when Anna Jarvis held a memorial for her mother at St Andrew’s Methodist Church in Grafton, West Virginia. Father’s Day was started to complement Mother’s Day. Both holidays had versions hundreds of years earlier in several parts of the world. Since single Baby Boomers often married and started families when they were younger, they have grown children and appreciate being remembered on these special days in some way. Friends can also help by getting together for lunch with other mothers or fathers who don’t have children or grandchildren living near them. A friend of mine invited me to share her Mother’s Day celebration. It made my day.
Birthdays – It’s wonderful to have someone recognize your birthday even if you don’t want to think about the fact that you’re another year older. I now have a large group of friends who throw each other parties, often themed based, for each new year. It makes us all feel as special as we did when we were kids and gives us an excuse to get together.
Housewarmings – When you move to a new home, you want to share your happiness with your friends and family. I had a small picture hanging pizza and wine party. It takes forever to get things up on the wall when you have to do it alone. Having someone else help you get your pictures up straight and well arranged can make all the difference. Knowing my friends cared enough about me to come over and help decorate made all of the things that bother me about placement and spacing seem unimportant. Their help made my new house into a home. A larger housewarming may follow but for now, more friends are invited to my condo for a friend’s birthday party.
New Pets – When we’re older, pets become an important part of our lives. Why not have friends over to meet yours. It doesn’t have to be a party. If a friend gets a new pet, welcome them with a visit and even a gift. You can also offer to pet sit when they go out of town.
Career or Job Change – Many single Baby Boomers are still in the job market and make career changes or moves within their company. This deserves recognition by family and friends because both are stressful and life changing. They’ve most likely changed jobs before but each time it’s like they’re the new kid at school. Even if they’ve just received a promotion at the same company, they have new responsibilities and may need someone to listen to their concerns or celebrate the change. Take your friend out to dinner and show them you understand their apprehension or joy with this new chapter in their life.
Retirement – You’ve dreamed about it for years and now it’s finally here. Work friends may help you celebrate but after the first few weeks they’re usually busy with their work lives and don’t have the time you do to go out for lunch or travel. Now’s the time to find other friends who can help you celebrate or just adjust to this new time in your life. I don’t mean you should forget about your other friends just expand your circle to include those with the same interests so you can learn to celebrate this new phase of life with adult “play dates”.
End of Life Events – Isn’t it better to celebrate your life or the lives of others with a happy event rather than the traditional wake and funeral? Wouldn’t you rather celebrate your life while you’re still alive or remember your loved one with a party? It’s been said that the people left behind need closure, but why can’t a celebration do the same thing? It’s more uplifting for those left behind. It can also make the person facing the end of their life more comfortable if they have one last bash to say goodbye and celebrate the great times they had together.
I’m sure you can think of more ways to celebrate life with your friends and family. Please share them with us here or on my Facebook Page, Single Boomer Life.
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