Before I retired I was motivated by different things.
- Providing emotional, physical and monetary support for my family.
2. Furthering my education
3. Personal and career development and advancement
4. Community Service
5. Adventure seeking which led to learning to fly, travel and moving from my hometown, state and for a year, my country
6. Meeting new people and making new friends everywhere I lived or visited
7. Saving for retirement
Today I’m still motivated by most of the same things but when I retired I lost interest in some of the things that once energized me. I have a pension and social security so making money isn’t important. I don’t need a large place to live or many possessions. However, I seem to accumulate new things wherever I go even though I’d cleaned out most of them when I moved to Japan and later the beach.
When I retired I said I was never going to get up until I was ready. Now I sometimes stay in bed watching TV or listening to audiotapes until late morning. I try to schedule my appointments in the afternoon, attend meetings later in the day and only make exceptions if absolutely necessary unless I’m traveling, of course. After my last move, I started going to the Senior Center to make friends and learn how to make stained glass ornaments. While I enjoyed it, I didn’t make any lasting friends in my new home until two ladies took pity on me and invited me to join a weight loss organization. There I found support and a circle of friends whom I can call on for entertainment, advice, and help.
A couple of years ago I was disgusted with myself for never finishing the novels I’d started. At the suggestion of another blogger and life coach, I started this blog which I hoped would become a book. While there are many books, articles, and blogs written for Baby Boomers and singles there are not many that address just single Baby Boomers. I thought this would be my niche and it has been until I decided that I wanted to travel more and write a work of fiction. So I traveled and I wrote about my travels but my blog posts got fewer and farther between. The good news is that I’m about a quarter of the way through my book, Sedona Star, but I still feel that I should be doing something for my community.
My friend suggested that I be a Guardian ad Litem. I’d visit children who’d been taking from their parents due to abuse or neglect and report my findings to the court. My family who’d lived through my experiences in my job and personal life thought it was a bad idea, but I persevered until the Parkland School shootings. I’d been threatened with death while working in schools and had other harrowing experiences so I decided they were right. I felt like a quitter but I also knew that as I aged I didn’t have the same physical and emotional strength I had when I was younger.
Still, I felt like I needed to do something other than go out with family and friends, exercise, travel and write my book. I’d like to say I found that something but I’m still searching. I did join the March for our Lives for new gun laws to protect our children and I’m watching the news so I can be better informed before the midterm elections. Somehow it doesn’t seem like enough. I wish I had some answers for others who need motivation. I’ve written about it on my blog but I still struggle with it myself. One blog that may interest you is https://singleboomerlife.com/2016/01/10/single-baby-boomers-have-you-found-your-passion/
My question for myself and you is:
After a life of working toward your goals and achieving most of what you need and want, is it all right to just concentrate on what makes you happy if you’re not hurting anyone else?
So are the experts who tell us that we need to keep working and be involved in the community to stay emotionally and physically healthy right or can we now be what I used to consider selfish?
If you have any thoughts, please share them with my readers and me. As for me, I’m off to Paris, Oxford, and southern England. I may not be making a contribution to society, but it’ll be a learning experience for me and hopefully the people with whom I interact. Also, one more thing will be checked off my Bucket List. Stay tuned.
Continue the adventure.